Here’s a thought:

The first Hebrew letter is ‘aleph.’ The word ‘aleph’ means ‘family,’ ‘thought,’ or anything ‘associated.’

If you think about that letter and its design you may find that it resembles two entities mirroring one another while being divided by a mirror.

So also the family. Man and wife being each other’s mirror images in more ways than one.

I tend to see my own mirror image in the mirror who is my spouse - and then blame him/her for what I perceive.

I am not granted by my Creator the power to control my spouse.

I am granted 100% control over my own doings and my own beingness.

If I am that which I desire my spouse to be, isn’t it likely that what I perceive in my spouse will then change according to my own will and according to my own desire?

Also I have noted the blessings inherent in the words “and thy desire shall be to thy husband” (Gen. 3:16.)

Be abundantly blessed, and…

Shabbat Shalom!